As Marisa Peer teaches in her Rapid Transformational Therapy method, “Your mind does what it truly believes you want it to do.” The problem is, the mind formed many of its beliefs in childhood, often based on misunderstanding or limited perspective. What felt like a moment of rejection, humiliation, or fear to a five-year-old can turn into a lifelong belief like “I’m not lovable,” “I’m not safe,” or “I don’t matter.” And until we go back and update that belief—until we show the mind that we’re no longer in that original situation—it will keep playing out the same pattern, over and over.

Mastin Kipp puts it this way: “You don’t have a self-sabotage problem. You have a nervous system that’s trying to keep you safe.” We repeat behaviors not because we’re weak or broken, but because at some point, our system learned those behaviors were the best way to survive. Real healing doesn’t happen by pushing through. It happens by creating safety, by being compassionate with ourselves, and by tracing the thread of our beliefs back to where they began.

For years, I believed my core wound happened at sixteen, when I was assaulted. That moment was traumatic, shattering. It changed the way I saw myself and the world. But when I began to do deep inner work—through RTT and coaching—I discovered something surprising. That incident wasn’t the beginning. It was a tipping point. Earlier events had already chipped away at my confidence, already planted the idea that I was different, that I didn’t fit, that I should stay small and keep quiet.

Some of the incidents that shaped me weren’t dramatic. They were subtle. A look. A comment. Being left out. Watching someone I loved suffer. These things didn’t seem like trauma at the time, but they taught me to pull back. To hide. To believe I wasn’t enough.

And that’s what makes this work so powerful—and so essential. We’re not just rewriting big, obvious traumas. We’re uncovering the quieter moments where we made a decision about ourselves that was never true to begin with.

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